So here we are at that time of the year again. You know…
And of course the festive Christmas music, the shops heaving with gift ideas, the hustle and bustle and slightly stressy vibe.
I’ve lost count of
I enjoy Christmas but I’m always super aware that it can be a tough time for many. It takes me back to the three Christmases I endured when I couldn’t have a baby. I say endured because that’s how it felt. I would gladly have shut my front door, popped on an adult onesie and watched 15 seasons of anything at all on Netflix – that didn’t have babies or pregnant women in it of course – just so I could wake up on the 2nd of January and it would all be over.
It hurt. Big time. Trying to act all
And if you’re reading this right now and nodding in agreement, then you know that Christmas is just one of the occasions where you have to really paint a smile on your face because, well isn’t everyone supposed to be JOYFUL?
So how can you prevent yourself from turning into The Grinch this Christmas?
1. Don’t put yourself in uncomfortable situations
Avoid large shopping outlets where you know there will be lots of babies, buggies,
Do your Christmas shopping in the evenings when it’s quiet and give yourself a break, lady!
2. Meditate and journal
Meditation was my
Writing in a journal is a really great way of getting stuff out of your head. I used to like to write all my negative thoughts down, then burn them or shred them (mostly in case anyone found them years later!) – but maybe you have another way of disposing of those thoughts so they can loosen their grip on you.
3. Practice gratitude
Yes I know – it seems on those really hard days like there’s not a whole lot to be grateful for, but this is exactly the time to look for the positives in each day.
Begin with the basics, such as being thankful for having food on the table, heat, your family, a good friend, etc. Write down 5 things every day. I
4. Be gentle
In the words of the very wise
“It’s okay not to be okay“
Don’t force yourself to be in a happy place if you’re having a tough day. Sometimes you have to sit with the feelings. Acknowledge them, cry, rant, throw pillows around the bedroom (yes, I’ve been there).
When situations throw you (pregnancy announcements etc.), don’t sweep the feelings under the rug. That’s harmful
5. Learn to say NO to situations and experiences which don’t make you feel good about yourself
Opt out of nights out that you know you don’t have the heart for
Sometimes when you say “no” to other people you are saying “yes” to yourself … and I’m all about loading up the
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